A Matter of Life and Death

We all die. Life is a terminal illness. Everyone will die and we are not in control of when that will happen, in most cases. “Life is the most comprehensive danger of all”. (Dr. John MacArthur, 2020)

If you are a Christian and have accepted Jesus Christ as your personal Lord and Savior then death means something completely different. In death, as a Christian, we have hope and we know that we will be with our Savior once death greets us.

I was just a little boy, around 8 or 9 when my first grandparent passed away. Emary Franklin Bryant Sr. He was in his early 60’s when he died of a massive heart attack. He was taken way too early and way too fast. I never really got to know him but his legacy continues even today. I proudly carry his name in full and my son carries his first and last name. I’m proud of my namesake and it’s history and heritage. I didn’t lose another grandparent until April 2011 during the massive tornado outbreak. It was a turbulent time. Dealing with hospital visits between storms and getting called into work.

Between Thanksgiving 2019 and Christmas that same year, my mother in law went to the doctor because she lost her voice and had a cold. She was diagnosed with lung cancer. That cancer spread so rapidly that she never got a chance to have her first treatment and on 21 March 2020, she died in her home.

At the same time, my other grandfather, William Hoyt Ownby, was battling his own health issues. He had fallen a few weeks ago and had hip surgery. He was almost mobile when he had a stroke and went back into the hospital. With the coronavirus (COVID-19) in full swing, the family was limited on the ability to visit him in the hospital. Last night he was moved to a Hospice Center and placed on comfort care. As my daughter and I entered his room to see him, for what may be the last time, he was sleeping peacefully. While I am sad that he is close to leaving this world, I’m joyful because of the hope we have in Jesus. I know, as sure as I am sitting here typing this, that I will see him again someday.

I recall running around his garage as a little boy. I remember overhearing him talking to someone and, being a Korean War Veteran, he said that he believed every young man should serve their country. I never forgot those words and next month, I will celebrate 21 years of being in the U.S. Navy. Before I left for boot camp, he and I sat in a wooden swing in his front yard and he assured me I was making the right decision. His only advice was to get everything I could. I’m proud to say that he was able to pin on my Anchors when I made Chief in 2013 and I’ve since made Senior Chief. I hope I’ve fulfilled his charge.

Death is certain. It is the only certain thing in this life. Be kind to one another. Be humble and realize that tomorrow is not promised and neither is our next breath.

Front Desk…

Citizens who work a front desk:

Please understand that you are the face of the business that you work for. If your emotions and disdain for your job and the public at large reflect in your words, facial expressions or tone of voice, we, your customers, will pick up on it and capitalism will begin to work and we will go elsewhere.

Equality At It’s Finest!

I’m curious.

Bruce Jenner is hailed as a hero because he had a sex change (a man living as a woman), but Rachel Dolezal is ridiculed and called out because she’s Caucasian and lives her life as an African-American.

What’s the difference?  Sure, of course I know the difference, but do or should their motives really matter?  If we truly want people to live how they want to live then we should be okay with people identifying as whoever or whatever they want to, right?  I mean, what’s good for the goose is good for the gander.

Just something to ponder.


This past Friday my family and I went to eat at a local pizza buffet.  There was a total of six of us.  My dad paid for my mom, my nephew and himself while I paid for Annie, my daughter and myself.  Dad paid first and he used a discount card which gave him a dollar off his purchase.  He handed me the card but I decided to use my military discount instead to see if I could get a better deal.  My total purchase ended up being a dollar “more” than my dad’s order.  lol  We both kind of scratched our heads and questioned what had just happened.  If anything, our bill should have been the same, but in reality, my bill should have been lower since my military discount was better than his $1 off.

As the cashier looked at our receipts he determined that he had accidentally charged me for an extra childs buffet and was more than willing to refund me the money.

Now, I’m not tooting my own horn or anything here, but I am telling this story so that maybe someone else will do the same thing in the near future.

Instead of taking the refund, I asked the manager, who was standing there, if they would just keep the money and donate the meal to the next child that came through the line.  He assured me that he would.

A few moments later a nice gentalman came up to me and shook my hand and told me thank you.   It made my night!

The next time you over pay a little more for something think about donating the overage to the next person.  Or better yet, the next time you go through the drive-thru window, pay for the car behind you.  Can you imagine how it would feel to pull up to the drive-thru and find out that the person ahead of you just bought your meal.  That some stranger took time out of their day to pass along some generosity to another stranger.

As we get closer to Christmas I ask that all of you think about paying thing forward.  Slow down and realize that there are people out there that could use a little helping hand.  Not only will it make them happy, but it does something good for your soul too.  God gave his son for our sins and that’s what He asks us to do for others.  So this season, give!

MobileMe Calendar Beta

For a while now I have been using MobileMe to sync my contacts and calendar events across all of my electronic devices.  I currently have two desktops, two laptops and two iOS devices that are being sync’ed using MobileMe.

For the most part I really enjoy adding a calendar event from my iPhone and having it show up on my desktop within a few minutes.  It’s really handy.  The one thing that I don’t like is that, for some reason, I sometimes get either a duplicate calendar event or I get a duplicate calendar on Microsoft Outlook.

All I ask from MobileMe is to sync my calendar and my contacts.  Please make it easier and don’t duplicate my events and contacts with every upgrade you make.  Before I upgraded my MobileMe calendar to the new beta I had one calendar.  Now, I have one calendar on MobileMe and I have two calendars in Outlook.  My Outlook calendar has a “calendar” and a “calendar from mobileme”.

I’m not happy with it and If Google would come out with a way to sync contacts over the air I would switch to Google and would save myself $99 a year.


I just completed a “downgrade” of MobileMe Calendar Beta and all is back to normal.  If you do the same I recommend closing Microsoft Outlook while doing the downgrade and then restart your computer afterward.